Support life, whether wives or husbands, in the Java language called 'Garwo ", or" Sigaraning Nyowo, "which means" soul mate ". A husband is the "soul mate" to his wife, vice versa. That they felt they needed each other. So, naturally one of them either husband or wife dies or a divorce, they will feel like dizziness, loss of balance. As if there was something missing from him. Some even became discouraged in life. Ideally, if I may choose, of course they want lively semati together. But the reality of life is not always the case.
Faced with this reality, according to Aminah Ustadzah Mimin, chargers Events Syurgaku MQFM My house, we should bear on the independence of each spouse. Independence includes three things: financial independence, emotional independence, and spiritual self-reliance.
The story of a wife who left her husband dead, as above, showed a complete independence of a servant. Emotionally, he was able to demonstrate personal maturity; he is able to face the reality of losing support life with fortitude and patience. Financially, he is also an independent, not dependent on her husband. Its financial independence was born out of spiritual independence. Firm belief that Allah is the only Giver Rizki-not her husband-making should not be moved and ready struggling to raise her three children are still small.
Of the three self-reliance, according Ustz. Mimin, which absolutely must be there in a person is spiritual independence. Because spiritual ketidakmandirian result will be more fatal than ketidakmandirian financially or emotionally. The worst risks of financial ketidakmandirian is poor. As for people who are not independent emotionally, he'll feel the risk is influenced by others in the neighborhood. He felt his happiness dependent on other people. A wife will be unhappy, if not be near her husband, or vice versa husband feel so miserable without the presence of his wife at his side.
Someone who lost their spiritual independence, he will lose everything. Because God is the giver Rizki, the giver of the best life companion and all the things that make us happy in this world. If not sure of the love of God, in whom we hope to get a longer lasting affection. Because after all the affection of a creature; both parents, lover (husband / wife), etc.. of course there are limits. Minimum support life until we met again by the true owners of Allah SWT. Who's the eternal love of God, even our bodies with the soil. Then we brought back from the grave to then account for all of our charity in the world, until it came time to meet with the Creator to us, namely Allah. For someone who has a spiritual self, happiness does not depend on how much love given her life companion in the world, but happiness for him is if he can be close to Allah SWT.
Humans as social beings, it is nature membutuhnya other people in life. After all, independence does not mean do not need anyone else, especially when to feel himself more than anyone else to emerge feeling smug. For someone who is emotionally self, others around only influence, not determine. Emotional reliance here must be accompanied by spiritual beliefs, if convinced God will help each of His servants, the independence will come from there.
The third person who has a form of independence above, will not suffer when times are separated from the companion of his life because of death or divorce. Although he did not fear for this poor husband was the one who sustains its economy, he remains tough for sure God will help him. Wallahua'lam.
